Who hasn’t dreamed of easily sharing their emotions when speaking in public? Or conquering the crowds; or being an outstanding speaker like Oprah Winfrey; Or having Barack Obama’s charisma in order to position yourself as a leader and model. Who secretly hasn’t dreamed of making grand speeches like Winston Churchill, other than in front of the mirror? It is true that speaking in public creates stage fright, which in turn inhibits our emotions, our joy and our desire to share our ideas. How can we convey our emotions when speaking in public? How can we convey confidence, kindness and daring?
Conveying my emotions, what for?
When you read the title of this article, some of you may say to yourself, “convey my emotions, what for? We aren’t here to tell a sob story!”
If this is the case, I invite you to take a few seconds to think about the speech that has impacted you the most in recent years, the one you quote the most often, the one you think about regularly. The one you remember in order to make important decisions. And ask yourself: did the speaker convey what he was feeling, what emotions motivated him, his doubts, his joys, his enthusiasm?
By going through this thought process, you will realize that there’s a good chance that this is indeed the case. Because it must be recognized that all significant speeches are made by speakers who are not afraid to convey what they feel; Speakers who are not afraid to share their doubts, their joys, their grief. These shared emotions stir a reaction in you. And even if you may not remember all the details, you haven’t forgotten the speech.
How to convey my emotions?
For those who are convinced of the importance of conveying their emotions, one questions remains: how to do it?
Here are 3 steps to take to convey your emotions more effectively:
1 – Accept your emotions
Speaking as such is already a source of emotions. We are afraid, we are apprehensive, we imagine catastrophic scenarios…
If you want to progress on this subject, stop fighting your emotions. Accept them. Yes, when we walk on stage, we’d like to be enthusiastic, but the truth is that at that point we are more than likely to be terrorized by the exercise. So, instead of enthusiasm, you’re feeling fear. The stakes are high: you’re defending a project that is close to your heart. You’re afraid; afraid of appearing ridiculous, of messing up your presentation, of being judged. You’re being hard on yourself and subconsciously you’re judging yourself.
You’re allowed to say: “this is hard!” It will not be a sign of weakness, it will only mean that it is an important moment for you. And the more you demonstrate the importance of the moment, the more it will become important for the people listening to you.
When you stop trying to hide the emotions that arise in presenting your idea, you will be more available and more sincere. This will enable you to express the emotions linked to your idea more easily.
2 – Formulate your emotions to feel them
Now that you are no longer afraid to accept your emotions, you need to successfully connect to them, while you are speaking in public. However, as we have seen, even if we accept them, stress tends to inhibit them.
For this second step, there’s no magic formula! If you want to show your emotions, say them out loud. Are you disappointed with a project? Say it: “I’m disappointed with… I didn’t expect that… We deserve better!” Are you enthusiastic about the recent results you obtained? That’s great, then say how proud you are about them.
Name things. Put words to your emotions, verbalize your thoughts and how you feel. To do this, adopt the vocabulary of emotions in terms of joy, commitment, disappointment. By doing this exercise you create the conditions to feel what you’re about to say.
Formulating the emotions linked to your message is doubly beneficial. Firstly, it establishes your coherence by aligning the verbal – what you say – and the non-verbal – what your body says. And secondly, formulating your emotions makes you more aware of them. And the more you’re aware of your emotions, the more you’ll be able to convey them easily.
3 – Embody your emotions
The ultimate step is to embody your emotions. Here, the goal is not to gush emotion. The goal is to embody the change you want for the people listening to you. Because, the role of the speaker is not to put on a show, but to accompany his audience on the path of his thoughts and his project; like a tourist guide.
On the path of all projects, there are stages. There’s good news, difficult assessments, surprises… The guide is the one who will share his opinions, his desires, his intentions, for each of these stages. This posture enables you to sincerely express your emotions. Thus, you will be able to create a mental map of your presentation, with the intentions that you want to convey.
Finally, the more you’re clear about your intentions, the more you’ll be connected to your emotions and the more you’ll be able to convey them at the best moment.
Learn how to convey your emotions during our next HUBSTORY®, “Key opinion leader” training seminar. This will allow you to express your personality more easily, to be fully connected to the present moment, and above all, to increase the impact of your presentations.